L.A. Plume answers your questions about entertaining, etiquette, and manners in the modern world.
Entertaining Questions (and answers!)
Wednesday, 15 September 2010 10:33
Dear Readers,
I receive questions all the time about entertaining. Here are some excerpts from letters and suggestions for entertaining with ease.
Dear L.A. Plume,
I would like to do a little entertaining but am a bit intimidated by the timing – how to get everything on the table at one time and get the guests to sit down when everything is ready. Can you help?
We're blessed with a swimming pool and use it daily. We frequently have friends on the weekend to swim; it's always a potluck picnic. Everyone brings great food, but one family never, ever brings their own towels. I've told them they should do so, that I have plenty of laundry of my own. They pay no mind. We hate to stop inviting them, as one of their boys is best friends with our son. The child is too little to know to bring his own towel. I hope you have a solution.
For a change, I have a solution rather than a problem, and thought I would share it with you. The question of what to take as a hostess gift when you are a house guest has been solved for me for the foreseeable future. My friends arrived for the weekend with a gift bag containing a box of pasta, a jar of specialty pasta sauce, a box of bread sticks, cheese, a bottle of wine, and cookies. They know I am often alone in my summer home and, with the addition of a salad I can make myself, this is perfect for me for a couple of dinners.
Two issues ago, I asked my readers to help me address some issues surrounding dog (and dog owner) etiquette. I got some great feedback!
Dear L.A.Plume,
I feel compelled to state up front that I am a dog lover. Having said that, I am not a lover of dogs being brought everywhere their owners go. (I am not a fan of children going to every function either, but that's another story!)
I attended a meeting the other evening, and a woman whom I'd never met sat down next to me. A complete stranger, she proceeded to point out people in the room and tell me about them. Some of the people I knew, and her “gossip” wasn't true. I was so completely taken aback by the situation that I just didn't know what to say, so I said nothing. What I really wanted to say was that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones… that her reputation is similar to a French lace curtain – in other words, has lots of holes in it. It's a small town, and even though I had never actually met this woman, her own reputation had preceded her. Should I have said anything?